Bn0yi, on 03 April 2012 - 09:16 AM, said:
wildcatherder, on 03 April 2012 - 08:00 AM, said:
It's perfectly fair to extend the "knows my name" argument to grown women. Every successful con game depends on prior knowledge of the target. Whether you are conning someone into bed or out of their inheritance, pretending to know someone is the best first step.
Yep! Here's the risk. A woman is leaving the grocery store. A stranger comes up and says "Hi! You are Susan, right? I know your brother Paul. He and I go to State U. together. Listen, I'm having a little bit of trouble with my car. Would you give me a hand for a sec?"
Growing up female means that you learn very early not to trust strangers in parking lots. But, this guy isn't a stranger, is he? He knows my brother.
But that said, there is probably no stopping this. Privacy in the public sphere is history. About the best we can hope for is that some enterprising young woman will create a "Block me from appearing in GAM" app.
I'm not saying that it would be impossible to use a woman's publicly available Facebook info to manipulate her into bed (or wherever), but this is a pretty bad example. It's a very unrealistic scenario, that one of my brother's friends from whatever university would be able to recognize me on sight, and even if he did, I, being the normal person that I am, would probably ask him a few questions about my brother in order to gauge whether he was actually telling the truth. The reason for my distrust would be his supremely weird approach, which involved recognizing one of his friend's sisters -- who he's never met -- on sight.
I mean, I've had people recognize me before, and it always involves confusion and a lot of surprise. And honestly, that kind of recognition ("Aren't you...?") doesn't instill the kind of trust that other types of recognition ("Didn't we go to ASIJ together?") do, and the latter types of recognition are painfully easy to verify. Plus, I have a pretty common name. I really don't think it's fair to assume that a woman is going to run away with someone who knows her name (I have a pretty common name, and plenty of people say it all the time in my presence, without even referencing me), and I don't think that anything on Facebook is really going to change that.
I guess that's the real point: That's the beauty of Facebook -- even if you share every single little tiny detail of your life, and someone reads all of it...they still know nothing useful about you. There's really no substitute for interacting with a person in the real world. Sure, a guy can come up to me armed with the knowledge of my hometown, high school, full name, marital status, dog's name (I don't have a dog), where I went to college, and how old I am, and what are they going to say? "Hey, didn't you go to high school with me?" ("No. I knew everyone in my high school."), "Hey, you look like you're...25." ("Um...."), "Hey, isn't your dog's name Silva?" ("Um......") I can honestly think of very few things that a guy, armed with my Facebook knowledge, could say that wouldn't instill an immediate sense of distrust in me, barring the normal situation where he pretends that he knows absolutely nothing. I suppose the "knowing your target's name" thing might work on drunk girls.